Healing

One question. When something unpleasant happens, how long is an acceptable amount of time to grieve? Does such a timeframe exist at all? Or is it something you simply create for yourself because, intellectually, you see no reason why you shouldn't be able to get over whatever's bothering you and simply move on?You try to remind yourself that, as Catherine Britton put it, "Courage is reclaiming your life after a devastating event robs you of your confidence and self-esteem. It is facing tomorrow with a firm resolve to reach deep within yourself to find another strength, another talent. It is taking yourself to another level of your own existence where you are once again whole, productive, special…"The hardest thing to deal with though is that you're never entirely certain whether you have reason to complain, whether you somehow caused whatever's bothering you. You invariably somehow manage to convince yourself that it is your own fault and, once you manage to do that, it seems as though nothing you do can ameliorate your condition.You see others' concern for you but you hear nothing they say. You feel their arms around you but you find no comfort in them. Nothing exists for you but your own guilt-induced misery. And you ask yourself how long it'll take you to recover?